Life will get easier if you gradually change your attitude and the way you respond to your user. In order to learn to let go you have to evaluate your priorities and take the following steps:

1. Learn to think positively and have the belief that life will improve.

2. Do not deny, but accept there are problems.

3. Accept that you have NO control over the user, or their uses of drugs.

4. Stop being protective, and permit the user to face reality.

5. Make the most of yourself, rather than trying to change or blame the user.

6. Be supportive and encouraging of any user’s attempts at recovery.

7. Do not cut yourself off from the user, but stand back, with love.

8. No longer allow yourself to be a puppet, be your own person.

9. Try to live in today and enjoy it. Give up trying to look into the future to protect yourself. Let go of the pain in your past, it can not be changed, start from now and live one day at a time.